Resilience Life Coaching
I am a Shaman, a facilitator who can help others achieve a new mind state with Focus on Heart, Mind and Body Integration
A simple change in our response, behavior or perspectivecan do so much more to help us clear and resolve issues.
It is our courage that allows us to question the choices we have made thus far and to channel our effort into innovation. Asking questions and making small adjustments to your thought processes, behaviors and perspective, will help you discover what works, so you can let go of what does not work. To break free from those unconscious patterns that have long held power over your actions and reactions, you will likely have to challenge your assumptions on a most basic level. You must accept once and for all that your beliefs with regard to cause and effect may no longer be in accordance with your needs.
When you work with me:
- I will apply the guidance I receive from my experience and intuition to promote change in your response, behavior or perspective.
My goal for you is to gain confidence and clarity. When you leave the session you will have the
tools and information to make the necessary changes RIGHT NOW!
Whether it is behavior modification, crystal therapy, essential oils or other healing modality, we
will choose the most effective.
Most important, we will work with my 3% rule: Do something small for 8 minutes each day and watch the changes equal up to a big shift in response, behavior or perspective.
Remember that you are a creative individual and that whatever you focus your mind on will come to pass. Integrating the change you wish to see in yourself and in the world around you is a matter of acknowledging those aspects that you wish to modify. Change begets change. The results you so passionately want to realize are well within the realm of possibility.
Our energy exchange:
$30 for a 30-minute session
$60 for a 60-minute session
Always say What You WANT
Rise - an asymmetrical shawl pattern
We are the collective sum of our thoughts, choices, and actions. When we RISE above and choose a positive attitude, this will have a very strong influence on our mentality and give us the motivation to take charge of our lifestyle, thoughts and emotions. RISE above and change stressful situations when you can. Change your reaction when you can’t change the situation. Always work to adopt a better attitude. Avoid being burdened with undo concern.
Take care of yourself and make time for rest, relaxation and knitting. Life is about the attainment of knowledge, the expansion of consciousness, and a constant reaching inward, upward and outward.
An asymmetrical shawl pattern
Available on Ravelry
Sending LOVE to your day
Sending Love to your day!
When waking up, many people consider the coming day with apprehension. Because of the natural human tendency to focus on what we fear or dislike, it is easy to unwittingly send a message of unease into the future that negatively impacts the quality of the rest of your day. However, while our lives are busy and full of challenges, our lives are also rich with joy and experiences worth appreciating.
We can attract happiness into our lives by starting each day with a message of love. When you send love to your day, that love will manifest itself in your interpersonal interactions, your professional endeavors, and your domestic duties. Undertakings made trying by your own anxiety, are transformed by your love. You will find yourself approaching life’s challenges great affection.
Each morning when you wake, take several deep, grounding breaths and reaffirm that you love yourself. Speaking a loving blessing aloud enables you to access and awaken the reservoir of tenderness in your own soul. Before you leave the comfort of your warm bed, converse with God and tell him that you are eager and ready to receive the blessings he has arranged for you. Then as you prepare to meet the day, visualize yourself surrounded with a warm and soft loving light. Gradually widen the circle of this light until you are able to send it ahead into your future. If you are driving, send love to the roads, your fellow commuters, and your parking space. If you have coworkers who arrive at your workplace before you, send them love. Likewise, a day spent being a spouse or parent and addressing household chores can benefit from the feeling of love.
Sending love ahead to everyone you will meet and everything you will do can ensure that your day is suffused with grace.
Bless the present
Expect the best
If you have difficulty sending love to those situations and individuals you deem particularly frustrating, consider that the warmth and tenderness you project can change your life for the better. Each morning, in sending this love, you exercise your power to control the mood of your reality and wash your day with love.
By beginning your day with love, you will think more clearly and feel grounded. Being grounded you will bounce back quickly from any situations that you deem fearful. You will be present, really present in body, mind and spirit.
Don't take things personally
When we interact with others, we have choices. We can listen, acknowledge and let go of their words or we can take what others say to us personally. In order to take something personally, we must perceive a negative intent in an individual’s voice, words or actions. Most of the time, what people say and do is based solely on their own experiences, emotions and perceptions; having no bearing upon us as the object of their words. When we take what others say or do personally, we may end up feeling hurt without reason.
If you are tempted to take a comment or action personally:
- -Create some distance between yourself and the other person
- -Try to determine what is at the root of your feelings.
- -Ask yourself if the other persons words or actions are just a reflection of a insecurity within you
- -Ask the other person what they meant
- Instead of taking their words as the truth, remember that whatever was said or done is based on their opinion and is more reflective of what is going on inside of them, rather than having anything to do with you. You may have been an easy target for someone having a bad day, and their comments may have been offered with no ill intentions toward you.
Never let anyone’s perceptions or actions affect how you see yourself or your self worth. It is up to you to influence your own value and create your own sense of well-being.
I know that I am wholesome; I always have been and always will be. There is inside me a place of confidence and quietness and security where all things are known and understood. This is my heart.
God speaks to me through my heart and gives me the answers to all my problems, and even now all answers are speeding their way to me. I do not need to struggle, worry or strive for the answers. When the time comes, the answers will be there. I give my problems to the great mind of God; I let go of them, confident that the correct answers will return to me when they are needed. Through the great law of attraction, everything in life that I need for my work and fulfillment will come to me. It is not necessary to strain about this, only believe. For the strength of my belief, my faith will make it so. I see the hand of divine intelligence that created all these things is in me and around me, in the flower, the tree, the earth and the sky. I know that God created all and I can call upon him for my slightest need.
I enjoy life, for each day brings a constant demonstration of the power and wonder of God. I am confident. I am serene. I am sure.
Every morning when you wake up set your intent (purpose) for the day. It can be simple or involved, just be aware.
Throughout the day remain aware of your intent.
Before going to sleep, set your intention (purpose) for dreamtime. Tell your mind that it is ok to relax and enjoy the rest. Also, tell your physical body to unwind and rest and wake up feeling energized.
Winter Knitting Class Schedule
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Center & make your morning yours
How you wake up can have a profound impact on your day. If you hit the ground running, rushing to prepare yourself to face your obligations, you may feel fatigued and overwhelmed.
On the other hand, a relaxing morning will energize and excite you, as well as give you the courage to meet any challenges. By beginning your day in a focused and centered fashion, you make it your own. You set the tone of your expectations and choose the mood you will use to respond to anything that comes your way, during the day.
A gentle, reflective, and thoughtful morning will prepare you to create a gentle, conscious, and thoughtful day.
A half-hour of reflection in which you thank God for the abundance in your life, and contemplate the blessings you receive this day can lift your spirit and help you formulate lasting positive expectations.
Devote your time to activities that both ground and satisfy you, such as knitting, reading, or listening to music.
The time you spend everyday savoring a cup of coffee or washing away tension in a hot shower can serve as an effective reminder of the need to care for yourself no matter what the hour.
Make your morning yours. As soon as you wake - center yourself. You may find it easier to remain centered throughout the day because of the overall sense of serenity you have already created.
By making a few small changes in our daily schedule, we can grow as spiritual beings, bringing happiness, peace and harmony to ourselves and those around us.
Drink a glass of water when you wake up:
- Your body loses water while you sleep, so you’re naturally dehydrated in the morning. A glass of water when you wake helps start your day fresh
- Taking a few slow deep breaths throughout the day clears your head and literally helps things flow.
Thank God for one thing you are grateful for each day:
- Truly think about how amazing creation is. Everything is intricate and interconnected. Slow down and notice the earth, sun and the people around you.
Change your perception about life:
- Changing your perception about life and the way you react to things can impact you greatly. By avoiding negative thoughts about yourself and others, you will learn to see things in a more positive light Smile when negative feelings are trying to take control of you. Often, the simple act of smiling, even forcing yourself to smile, brings positive thoughts to the surface and allows you to get back to your pleasant and most effective you.
- At the core of letting go is trust and faith. Even when it appears otherwise, cultivate a feeling that ‘all is unfolding for my highest good.’
- Sometimes, just letting go and accepting yourself and whatever the situation that arises, allows life to flow.
Enjoy each moment and stay present:
- Bring awareness in every moment. Even when performing the mundane stuff, such as sorting through the mail, cooking, cleaning, and working.
Focus on the needs and concerns of others:
- Learn how to become an open minded individual and accept everyone, regardless of who they are. Random acts of kindness are a good place to start.
Knit, meditate and pray on a daily basis to center yourself. Take care of yourself and focus on the important things in life.
In the next six weeks while I am gone:
- Learn something new every day, such as the definition of a word, a new recipe, or listen to Ted Talk. Make it simple and fun.
Your ASSIGNMENT should you decide to accept it:
- Learn something about knitting the interests you. Such as a new technique, a pattern or a bit of history. Look up something on the Internet or in the Principles of Knitting book, or any book for that matter.
- When Knitting Classes resume in the Fall, be prepared to share and/ or demonstrate your new knowledge to the class.
Allow your Knitting to be Mindful & Magical
As knitters, we have intimate knowledge of how ordinary tools and materials,
when knitted with meaning and purpose, produce an item charged with love in every stitch.
“It's about living your life as if it really mattered, moment by moment by moment by moment.”
Mindfulness involves paying attention “on purpose”.
Mindfulness involves a conscious direction of our awareness.
Notice the mind wandering, and when it does wander, purposefully bring our attention back.
When we're knitting un-mindfully, we may in theory be aware of what we’re doing, but we’re probably thinking about a hundred and one other things at the same time. We may also be watching TV, talking, or reading — even all three! Therefore a very small part of our awareness is absorbed with knitting, and we may only be barely aware of the physical sensations and even less aware of our thoughts and emotions.
Because we’re only dimly aware of our thoughts, they wander in an unrestricted way. There’s no conscious attempt to bring our attention back to our knitting. There’s no purposefulness.
This purposefulness is a very important part of mindfulness. Having the purpose of staying with our experience, whether that’s the breath, a particular emotion, or something as simple as knitting, means that we are actively shaping the mind.
Paying attention “in the present moment”
Left to itself, the mind wanders through all kinds of thoughts — including thoughts expressing anger, craving, depression, revenge, self-pity, etc. If we indulge in these kinds of thoughts we reinforce those emotions in our hearts and cause ourselves to suffer. Mostly these thoughts are about the past or future. The past no longer exists. The future is just illusory until it happens.
The one moment we actually can experience — the present moment — is the one we seem to avoid most.
So in mindfulness - we’re concerned with noticing what’s going on right now.
That doesn’t mean we can no longer think about the past or future, but when we do, we do so mindfully, so that we’re aware that right now we’re thinking about the past or future.
However in our knitting, we are concerned with what’s arising in the present moment. When thoughts about the past or future take us away from our present moment experience and we “space out” we are able to recognize this and simply come back to now.
By purposefully directing our awareness away from such thoughts and towards our present moment experience, we decrease their effect on our lives and we create instead a space of freedom where calmness and contentment can grow.
Paying attention “non-judgmentally”
Mindfulness is an emotionally non-reactive state. Consider:
Don’t judge that this experience is good and that one is bad. Or if we do make those judgments, we simply notice them and let them go. We don’t get upset because we’re experiencing something we don’t want to be experiencing or because we’re not experiencing what we would rather be experiencing. We simply accept whatever arises. We observe it mindfully. We notice it arising, passing through us, and ceasing to exist.
Whether it’s a pleasant experience or a painful experience, we treat it the same way.
Cognitively, mindfulness is aware that certain experiences are pleasant and some are unpleasant, but on an emotional level we simply don’t react.
We call this “equanimity” — stillness and balance of mind.
Physically begin your mindful knitting (or any other activity) by the following exercise:
Find the Balance point of your body
Sit up straight. Keep the body aligned along a centerline: head in line with the spine, bodyweight over the hips. Find one's stable center and stay balanced when moving the arms overhead, forward or backward. Feel rooted in the earth with your body sunk and centered, and both of your feet solidly in place on the earth. Strive to be relaxed, soft, and supple as you align and center your whole body. In yourself, in your practice in your body, make Heaven and Earth one, connected, aligned.
Focus your Eyes
Keep your eyes active and focused on your knitting. Make full use of your eyes and the sensations in your fingers. Your eyes will lead your thoughts, while your thoughts will build your mind. Your fingers will direct your knitting naturally.
Keep your head high and in line with your spine. You can do certain exercise to help you make your head, neck, and upper back muscles stronger, coordinated and flexible. Show a soft smile, stay focused, concentrate as needed, and enjoy your knitting time.
Balance Your Mind
Recognize that your thoughts and emotions are fleeting and do not define you, an insight that can free you from negative thought patterns.
Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment.
Mindfulness also involves acceptance, meaning that we pay attention to our thoughts and feelings without judging them—without believing, for instance, that there’s a “right” or “wrong” way to think or feel in a given moment. When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future.